Healthy Relationship Quiz Everyone deserves to be in a safe and healthy relationship. Do you know if your relationship is healthy? Choose how often your partner does the following to find out. Be sure to write down your responses, each question tells you how to score your answer. At the end, you’ll find out how to interpret your scores. Enter your email address if you'd like your answers and score sent to you, but this is not required. Please hit submit when you have your score and are finished. Retake the Quiz and choose how often you do the following for your partner.The Person I'm With...1. Is very supportive of things that I do and encourages me to try new things.SCORE: Often: -5, Sometimes: -3, Never: 5 Often Sometimes Never 2. Likes to listen when I have something on my mind.SCORE: Often: -5, Sometimes: -3, Never: 5 Often Sometimes Never 3. Talks to me when they’re unhappy with something in the relationship.SCORE: Often: -5, Sometimes: -3, Never: 5 Often Sometimes Never 4. Is willing to compromise.SCORE: Often: -5, Sometimes: -3, Never: 5 Often Sometimes Never 5. Understands that we have separate interests and can spend time apart.SCORE: Often: -5, Sometimes: -3, Never: 5 Often Sometimes Never 6. Is mean or rude to my friends.SCORE: Often: 5, Sometimes: 1, Never: 0 Often Sometimes Never 7. Criticizes or distracts me when I’m doing things that don’t involve them.SCORE: Often: 5, Sometimes: 1, Never: 0 Often Sometimes Never 8. Gets extremely jealous or possessive.SCORE: Often: 5, Sometimes: 1, Never: 0 Often Sometimes Never 9. Accuses me of flirting or cheating when I’m not.SCORE: Often: 5, Sometimes: 1, Never: 0 Often Sometimes Never 10. Constantly checks up on me or makes me check in.SCORE: Often: 5, Sometimes: 1, Never: 0 Often Sometimes Never 11. Breaks or throws things when we fight.SCORE: Often: 10, Sometimes: 5, Never: 0 Often Sometimes Never 12 Threatens to destroy my things.SCORE: Often: 10, Sometimes: 5, Never: 0 Often Sometimes Never 13. Tries to control what I do, who I see, what I wear, how I look or who I talk to.SCORE: Often: 10, Sometimes: 5, Never: 0 Often Sometimes Never 14. Makes me feel nervous or like I’m "walking on eggshells.”SCORE: Often: 10, Sometimes: 5, Never: 0 Often Sometimes Never 15. Blames me for problems, puts me down, calls me names or criticizes me.SCORE: Often: 10, Sometimes: 5, Never: 0 Often Sometimes Never 16. Makes me feel like no one else would want me.SCORE: Often: 50, Sometimes: 25, Never: 0 Often Sometimes Never 17. Threatens to hurt themselves, me, my friends, pets or family.SCORE: Often: 50, Sometimes: 25, Never: 0 Often Sometimes Never 18. Yells, screams or humiliates me in front of other people.SCORE: Often: 50, Sometimes: 25, Never: 0 Often Sometimes Never 19. Grabs, pushes, shoves, chokes, punches, slaps, holds me down, throws things or hurts me in some way.SCORE: Often: 50, Sometimes: 25, Never: 0 Often Sometimes Never 20. Pressures, guilts or forces me into having sex or going farther than I want to.SCORE: Often: 50, Sometimes: 25, Never: 0 Often Sometimes Never Get Your Results by Email or Calculate on Your Own. Click 'Submit' at the Bottom of the Page When Finished.NOT REQUIRED Calculate Questions 1-5: Often: -5, Sometimes: -3, Never: 5 Questions 6-10: Often: 5, Sometimes: 1, Never: 0 Questions 11-15: Often: 10, Sometimes: 5, Never: 0 Questions 16-20: Often: 50, Sometimes: 25, Never: 0 Now that you're finished and have your score, the next step is to find out what it means. Simply take your total score and see which of the categories below apply to you. Score: 0 or Less Points You got a negative score or a zero? Don’t worry -- it's a good thing! It sounds like your relationship is on a pretty healthy track. Maintaining healthy relationships takes some work -- keep it up! Remember that while you may have a healthy relationship, it's possible that a friend of yours does not. If you know someone who is in an abusive relationship, find out how you can help them. Score: 1-5 Points If you scored one to five points, you might be noticing a couple of things in your relationship that are unhealthy, but it doesn't necessarily mean they are warning signs. It's still a good idea to keep an eye out and make sure there isn't an unhealthy pattern developing. The best thing to do is to talk to your partner and let them know what you like and don't like. Encourage them to do the same. Remember, communication is always important when building a healthy relationship. It's also good to be informed so you can recognize the different types of abuse. Score: 6-10 Points If you scored six to ten points, it sounds like you may be seeing some warning signs and your relationship may be unhealthy. Don’t ignore these red flags. Something that starts small can grow much worse over time. No relationship is perfect -- it takes work! But in a healthy relationship you won't find abusive behaviors. Score: 11-50 Points If you scored eleven to fifty points, you are definitely seeing warning signs and may be in an abusive relationship. Remember, abuse is not just physical. Learn about the different types of abuse and how to spot the warning signs. If you think your relationship may not be as healthy as you deserve, you may want to get out. Score: More than 50 Points If you scored more than 50 points, it is important to consider taking steps to ensure your safety whether you choose to remain in the relationship or not. Everyone deserves a healthy relationship.
